“My
dear brothers, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to
speak and slow to become angry, for a man’s anger does not bring about the
righteous life that God desires.” (James 1:20)
When
high carbon steel is treated for making tools, it is both hardened and tempered in
a multistep process. The steel is hardened against wear, such as the tip of a
screw driver, by heating and quick cooling. The problem is that while hard, the
tip is brittle. The screwdriver tip is then reheated and allowed to cool at a
slower rate to temper it so that it is not brittle.
When
we become angry, it is called losing our temper. Like steel our temper is that
quality which makes us strong but not brittle. For
me, there is something about love which makes me see things so much differently
and in a less threatening way. Love is the virtuous temper in temperament.
Anger is that which distorts my thinking so much that rational thought or
speech escapes me. It is as if the pilot
light is always lit on my anger too. It is one of my primary faults and even at
a lower temperature, sarcasm and impatience flows. Being cut off in traffic is
a quick source of anger for me but less likely if I have allowed plenty of time
to get to my destination.
Is
there righteous anger? Yes, Jesus threw the money changers out of the temple
and there is no doubt he was angry when he did it. It was described as zeal for
his father’s house. When we see an injustice, anger may motivate the righting
of a wrong. We must be careful not to become angry on behalf of someone who
does not see themselves threatened or angry. It would be a signal that we too
easily look for opportunities to be angry.Are we putting ourselves in
situations that lead to resentment simply because we refuse to construct
personal boundaries? Are we trying to prove to ourselves that others are not
trustworthy?
I
honestly believe that anger is a symptom of a deeper problem of fear and fear
is a response to an even more basic problem of mistrust. Jesus said we should
be as wise as serpents and as innocent as doves. Wisdom and innocence for me
translate to trust with discernment. This is not being gullible and easily
taken in. As I reflect on this, the roots of anger can be deep within the
individual. Some have been deeply disappointed in a period of life when they
were totally dependent on others. This is an emotional bruising and makes it
difficult for some Christians to trust even God. It is the theological virtue
of love that can mend this torn fabric of trust. A failure to trust is a
failure to love.
“There is no fear in love but perfect love casts out fear,
because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love.” (1 John 4:18)
“Trust
in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.”
(Proverbs 3:5)
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